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Some Thoughts On Recovery
It’s National Eating Disorder awareness week. Here’s some things I’m learning; 1. Don’t do it alone For me, recovery started when I began opening up to others. I wanted to get better on my own, but I...
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Self-Harm Info
Today is self-harm awareness day. Below I’ll lay out some of the facts and figures but before I do, let me make a plea: Self-harm is not someone else’s struggle. It’s not a strange practice for the...
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25 Questions
Just a quick reminder - This summer I’m doing a number of seminars on mental health, (e.g. eating disorders, self-harm, depression, OCD, anxiety). As part of my research, I’m interested in hearing...
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I Can’t Hear You
Over the last few weeks I’ve been doing some talks and seminars, many on eating disorders. As well as talking with sufferers, I’ve had the privilege of speaking to their loved ones. Partners,...
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Helping You, Helping Me
One of the big theories behind personality, is something called attachment: how well as babies we do or don’t relate to our mums. It’s argued that boys who attach insecurely to their mums will either...
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The God of Small Things: repost
If as a church, we don’t respond to brokenness and mess, then here’s what we’re preaching: ‘Our God is too small. And your problems are too big’. Some of the most devastating words I’ve ever heard...
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Infertility Etiquette
If your friend is undergoing fertility treatment, here are some sentences you might want to rethink. 1. ‘Which of you has the problem?’ (in terms of ’causes’ there’s a 50/50 split between male and...
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I Can Make You Purple
Here’s something you might not know. No matter what problem you’re facing: divorce, bereavement, addiction, depression… there’s a simple five step programme to fix it. Whatever you want to be...
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Stay On The Bank
I’ve been asked for advice. ‘A friend of mine is anorexic. We’re reading the Bible together and I’m really worried about her, but I don’t know how to help. What should I say?’ Some thoughts.. 1....
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Loving The Bruised
Following yesterday’s post, I’ve been thinking about ways that churches can help those who are struggling. Here’s a few – and I’d love to hear KEEP READING… www.simplesharebuttons.comPlease share...
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Loving Someone Who Has Miscarried
There are some sadnesses that colour everyday life, even though we don’t talk about them. Miscarriages are one example. My experience is limited but here’s some thoughts on how to support those who are...
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Life and Death
In yesterday’s post, I touched on the issue of suicide. Here are a few of the comments: and a powerful reminder of how complex and painful this issue can be: “As a youth worker I have often begged...
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Unapologetic
I’ve just sent an email that, if written about me (and it could have been), would have left me spitting blood. There’s a bit of me that’s howling at the keyboard and clawing at my own throat. But the...
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Doctor, Doctor
Last weekend I spoke at the Christian Medical Fellowship conference. I was giving trainee medics a sufferer’s perspective on eating disorders. I opened by saying I was scared of doctors. (I’m scared...
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Protecting the Brand
“A silent epidemic of anorexia is sweeping through the country’s top independent schools, affecting thousands of teenage girls, experts say. Girls from aspirational families are the “fastest-growing”...
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Silencing Self-Harm
An email I received after yesterday’s post, (quoted with permission): “I just read your post from yesterday and I just wanted to say I think you’ve hit the nail on the head. I go to a private school...
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ED Awareness
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0oqxMm2ELm8 A great wee video from my lovely friend Danielle, on the basics of eating disorders. Thanks Dani! Share...
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Helping A Depressed Friend
When someone you love is depressed, it can feel like nothing you say or do makes a difference. Do you leave them alone if they say they don’t want company? Or press them to do something that might...
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Dangerous Assumptions
1. Mental health struggles are not necessarily a reflection of someone’s spiritual state. If they’re depressed, it’s not that they’re ‘just not getting’ something about the gospel – and if they only...
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‘Can I tell you something?’
There are some conversations that don’t have a script. And when a friend tells you that they’ve been abused, there are no easy answers. But here’s some thoughts on listening: Don’t silence them. Let...
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